Danger, not fear, lies at the heart of conflict. Fear and the self-protective strategies which danger promotes are functions of danger and a person’s unique way of seeking safety from the danger. The key to understanding conflict is recognizing danger, especially relationship danger, and then understanding whether the self-protective strategies (or defense mechanisms) being used are productive, not-productive, or counter-productive.
This blog explores what might be dangers. Scientific measurement tools from the attachment field, and the DMM in particular, identify very specific relationship dangers. CSI’s DMM Danger List includes many such dangers.
A DMM-informed perspective on affect spikes, unresolvable struggle, and use of violence to end conflict
A CSI whitepaper on affect and violence
Information processing and transformation
What is information processing? A DMM-attachment theory perspective. A CSI overview paper.
Shame vs humiliation: Do these emotions express differentially in DMM attachment patterns?
DMM attachment science suggests shame and humiliation are uniquely sensitive emotions for A and C attachment strategies. A CSI Advanced Whitepaper.
DMM Danger list
Relationship danger drives attachment system reactions
DMM is short for Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation.