When a client is using fairly intense forms of DMM affective strategies, the higher-C strategies, what are the most effective ways to relate and motivate them? How can professionals support such clients to access and use lower strategies? How can move someone from using C5-6 strategies to C3-4 or C1-2 strategies? What are the subjective attachment dangers that might trigger them and how can we avoid the triggers, or protect them from experiencing the dangers? Come share your experiences and thoughts in this no-host, open discussion.
CSI’s article 13 Shiny Objects provides a list of 13 common defensive behavior and thinking strategies often seen utilized by people using high C (affective attachment) strategies. The online version of the article does not have the solutions/techniques section, and we will cover some of them during the session.
Please note: Change in starting time
There will be one-time change of start time this week, and a permanent change during this winter
The one-time change is for the Tuesday session start time this week in the US only. This week, the US will start on Tuesday at 8:00 a.m. Seattle time, and 11 a.m. Miami time. The US start time will resume in November. UK/EU start times are NOT affected.
Thursday sessions for the pandemic winter (2020-2021)
Starting this Thursday, and for the remainder of daylight savings time (in both world hemispheres), we will start all of the Thursday sessions at:
- 1:00 pm Seattle time NEW TIME
- 4:00 pm Miami time NEW TIME
- 9:00 pm London time NEW TIME
- 10:00 pm EU time NEW TIME
- 8:00 pm India time NEW TIME
- 7:00 am on Friday morning in Sydney, Australia
Countries are starting to move their clocks back or forward to accommodate the season changes. The times listed below are hopefully accurate. The session will definitely start on Tuesday at 8:00 am Seattle time and 11:00 a.m. Miami time, and on Thursday at 1:00 pm Seattle time and 4:00 pm Miami time. Australia and the UK/EU have already made their seasonal time shift. The US will make their seasonal shift on November 1, 2020. UK and EU will apparently change on October 25, 2020.
Session details
Date: Tuesday, October 27 (live) & Thursday, October 29 (video replay), 2020 (Friday, October 30 in Australia/Asia)
Length: 60 minutes
Price: Free
Host/Facilitator: No host, open-group discussion
Platform: Zoom meeting
Sponsor: Conflict Science Institute
Multiple sessions: Each session will be unique, please join both!
Session times: Times listed below, PLEASE NOTE, some computer calendars do not automatically handle the time zone conversion correctly.
Session A (live) (EU/US/India): Tuesday, October 20, 2020, 8:00 a.m. Seattle (UTC -7) (11:00 a.m. Miami, 5:00 p.m. London, and 9:00 p.m. New Delhi.)
Session B (live) (US/EU/AUS/Asia): Thursday October 29, at 1:00 p.m. Seattle time (4:00 p.m. Miami, 9:00 p.m. London, and (in Australia/Thailand/China on Friday) at 8:00 a.m. in Auckland, 7:00 a.m. in Sydney, 6:00 a.m. in Perth/China, and 4:00 a.m. in Bangkok. (ASIA participants should confirm the start time.)
Kasia Kozlowska is planning to join the DMM Coffee House later this year to talk about some of the metaphors in her new book, and take questions. PRIOR to hosting Kasia live, we will have one or two book review sessions to prepare ourselves to host Kasia. Our first book review session, without Kasia, will be in two weeks, during the first week of November at the usual times. Here is a link to a review of her book, and to a summary list of intervention techniques identified in the book.

The book is available on Amazon in softcover, and as a free Kindle download. It is also available from Palgrave publishing in softcover, and as an Open Access and free PDF or EPUB download.