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DMM Coffee House #34: Cruelty resulting from certain DMM self-protective strategies

November 27, 2020 by CSI

1 and 3 December 2020. Cruelty is an outcome from the use of some DMM self-protective strategies. What does cruelty look like? How common is it? Which strategies are associated with cruelty? How does it differ in function and expression between cognitive and affective strategies? Is cruelty a self-protective strategy or a function or byproduct of how a person is trying to get their needs met? How often is the resultant cruelty mixed with mournful expressions or pleas for love? The behavior that results in cruelty is often unrelenting, and when it is, how can we help stop the runaway freight train? How can people experiencing cruelty forgive?

Steve Morris coined the phrase Punitive Interpersonal Cruelty. “Punitively angry and Obsessed with revenge” is the traditional DMM phrase which is often associated with resultant cruelty. Assessing Adult Attachment talks about affective-oriented speakers using unrelenting negative descriptors when describing their relationship with their parents. Does Steve’s use of the word cruelty capture the brutal essence of the consequences of at least one form of extreme self-protective strategy use? We’ll explore other phrases which might describe what is happening. Here are some possibilities.

Punitive Interpersonal Cruelty PIC
Unrelenting interpersonal cruelty UIC
Relentless interpersonal cruelty RIC
Obsessive interpersonal cruelty OIC
Obsessively unrelenting cruelty OUC
Obsessive unrelenting cruel hell OUCH
Extreme Interpersonal Cruelty EIC
Extreme and Unrelenting Cruelty EUC
Obsessed with Revenge OWR
Obsessed with Revenge, and Resultant Cruelty OR:RC, ORRC

Affective face - By Steve Morris

Join us and share your stories and thoughts as we give loving attention to cruelty. Steve Morris will open the session with a skit using his DMM masks. Steve lives in the U.K. and is a clinical director at Pear – Psychological Education and Resilience.

Session details

Date: Tuesday, December 1 (live) & Thursday, December 3 (live), 2020 (Friday, December 4 in Australia/Asia)
Length: 60 minutes
Price: Free
Host/Facilitator: no host, open discussion
Platform: Zoom meeting
Sponsor: Conflict Science Institute
Multiple sessions: Each session will be unique, please join both!
Session times: Times listed below, PLEASE NOTE, some computer calendars do not automatically handle the time zone conversion correctly.
Session A (live) (EU/US/India): Tuesday, December 1, 2020, 9:00 a.m. Seattle (UTC -7) (noon in Miami, 5:00 p.m. London, 9:00 p.m. New Delhi, midnight in Bangkok.)
Session B (live) (US/EU/AUS/Asia): Thursday December 3, at 1:00 p.m. Seattle time, 4:00 p.m. in Miami, 9:00 p.m. in London, and (in Australia/Thailand/China on Friday) at 8:00 a.m. in Sydney. (AUS/ASIA participants should confirm the start time.)

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