On February 9 and 11, 2021, Karen Quail will talk about non-violent discipline options from her recent research paper on discipline alternatives. Her research was a meta study of research studies which analyzed non-violent parenting techniques. Looking for what techniques were supported by research, she and her colleague found and described an amazing list of discipline alternatives.
Some of her findings are intriguing. For example, time-out can be an effective non-violent discipline option, but only if used in certain ways. She found several different types of time-out. TIme-in can also be effective.
This will be the first of two DMM Coffee House sessions Karen will host. After introducing her findings, she will field questions and we will explore her research findings in terms of DMM-attachment and the self-protective strategies kids use to obtain safety and protection from their parents.
Karen is using her research to build a parenting toolkit of peace discipline techniques. She has published a comprehensive list of these positive discipline techniques with brief descriptions at https://www.peacediscipline.com/toolkit.html. Many of the techniques dovetail with and support parent attunement, the keystone parenting skill.
Session details
Date: Tuesday, 9 February 2021 (live), and on Thursday, 11 February 2021 (video replay)
Length: 60+ minutes
Price: Free
Host/Facilitator: Karen Quail
Platform: Zoom meeting
Sponsor: Conflict Science Institute
Multiple sessions: Each session will be unique, please join both!
Session times: Times listed below, PLEASE NOTE, some computer calendars do not automatically handle the time zone conversion correctly.
Session A (live) (US/EU/Africa/India): Tuesday, 9 February 2021, 9:00 a.m. Seattle (UTC -7) (noon in Miami; 5:00 p.m. in London; 7:00 p.m. in Cape Town; 9:00 p.m. in New Delhi; midnight in Bangkok.)
Session B (video replay) (US/EU/AUS/Asia): Thursday, 11 February 2021, at 1:00 p.m. in Seattle (4:00 p.m. in Miami; 9:00 p.m. in London; and (in Australia/Thailand/China on Friday) at 8:00 a.m. in Sydney. (AUS/ASIA participants should confirm their local start time against Seattle time.)
Karen Quail

Karen lives in Cape Town, South Africa, and has a background as a school counsellor and teacher. She now works independently, coaching and running workshops on non-violent discipline and related topics.

Karen’s research on non-violent discipline skills was a part of her psychology masters at the University of Cape Town.
Quail, K. R., & Ward, C. L. (2020). Nonviolent Discipline Options for Caregivers and Teachers: A Systematic Overview of the Evidence. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, Copyright © 2020. DOI: 10.1177/1524838020967340. It is available (at a cost) at sagepub.com/journals, and Karen has made it available at no cost at https://www.peacediscipline.com/research.html.
A summary of her research and findings are described in the Child Discipline Wikipedia article.
https://www.peacediscipline.com/ is brand new (as of January, 2021). It looks like it is designed to be easy for parents to navigate. She is working hard at creating a series of parent coaching videos for her site and her new Peace Discipline YouTube channel.
Karen’s session is part the DMM Coffee House parenting series for 2021.