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DMM Coffee House #63: Exploring emotions from a DMM perspective

June 28, 2021 by CSI

Emotions have been rising, at least as a topic in our recent DMM Coffee House discussions. Last year we explored the Shame-Humiliation hypothesis and that topic has come up a number of times. We can revisit it, but let’s also explore other emotions, especially those that might be primary triggering emotions such as abandonment/jealousy. Bring your questions and experiences to this no-host session. Some of the questions we can explore might include:

  • Intense jealousy is a common feature for people who use C-strategies in DV situations, and often there has been no affair. Are claims of affairs a delusional transformation of information stemming explaining/justifying an intense feeling of abandonment or rejection? Is jealousy a secondary or tertiary emotion as described Jaak Panksepp?
  • Is their an opposite emotion of jealousy for people who use A-strategies?
  • In addition to shame and humiliation, what are some of the common and intense emotions that can drive use of higher self-protective strategies?
  • The DMM describes intrusions of negative affect ([ina]), as an intense experience of emotions overriding self-protective A-strategies seen rarely and only in higher A-strategies. But are [ina]’s dimensional? Is it possible lower A-strategies might experience something similar where the response is something less than an “explosion” of anger? Could this be an issue a tool like the AAI can’t pick up, but one we see in clinical practice? What emotions might be likely to trigger mini-[ina]’s? What might a mini-[ina] look like?
  • Is it helpful to think of A-anger as a volcano, where lava, always bubbling beneath the surface, can seep out at times and  explode at times, and C-anger as an always lurking and never-ending hurricane, where the eye provides a false sense of safety and comfort?

For a discussion about shame and humiliation, it helps to know how you define these two words which are often confusingly described as one emotion. This article offers a start for definitions and describes why these might be important emotions in terms of danger, protection and comfort. Shame vs humiliation: Do these emotions express differentially in DMM attachment patterns? – Conflict Science Institute.

Session details

Date session A: Tuesday, 29 June 2021 (live, not recorded)
Date session B: Thursday, 1 July 2021 (Live, not recorded)
Length: 90+ minutes
Price: Free
Host/Facilitator: No host
Platform: Zoom meeting
Sponsor: Conflict Science Institute
Multiple sessions: Each session will be unique, please join both! Invite your colleagues.

Session times: 
Session A (US/EU/Africa/India): Tuesday, 9:00 a.m. Seattle (UTC -7) (11:00 a.m. in Dallas; noon in Miami; 5:00 p.m. in London; 7:00 p.m. in Cape Town; 9:00 p.m. in New Delhi; midnight in Bangkok.)

Session B (US/EU/AUS/Asia): Thursday, at 1:00 p.m. in Seattle (3:00 p.m. in Dallas; 4:00 p.m. in Miami; 9:00 p.m. in London; and (in Australia/Thailand/China on Friday) at 6:00 a.m. in Sydney. (AUS/ASIA participants should confirm their local start time against Seattle time.)

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